Single parenting can be overwhelming, but there’s no greater joy than being a parent. I realize there are single fathers raising their sons and daughters, but I’m going to speak from my perspective and experience as a single mother. Having the majority of the responsibility on my shoulders caused stress, but I vowed to remain strong even through my tears. At times they were tears of joy and other times tears from feeling overwhelmed.
My daughter was and still is the most beautiful person in the world to me. When she was placed in my arms, I knew that my life had changed forever. Regardless of whatever else I accomplished, my role as a mother will be the greatest.
Nurturing an infant into a productive adult is a huge responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly. I knew that I would have to sacrifice to raise her, but I also knew the love I felt for her would remain unconditional.
To say that her dad was an absent father would be an understatement. He showed up at the hospital after her birth, and believed that handing over a few dollars for child support was his primary role. He didn’t do much better during the 9 months that I carried her either. I must stress the use of “condoms” here ladies. I found myself angry and overwhelmed at times because I didn’t have anyone to share the responsibility of getting up during the night for feedings, changing diapers, taking her to the doctor or the park. If you can relate, let go of any anger. It will only weigh you down.
There were times I was exhausted too. My day started around 4:00 am, I commuted an hour and half one way to work. I made a decision not to move closer to my job because I believed that my small town would be the perfect place to raise her. My family and community saw my struggle, and came to my rescue. They volunteered to provide child care while I worked and my mother cared for her while I attended college so I could position myself for a better job. I’m not sure I would have been successful without their help. This is where I learned to utilize my resources and welcome the assistance.
I was able to obtain a better job, purchase a home, a reliable car and take care of her in the manner that we as mothers dream of. I awarded her in high school for being the best daughter that any mother could ask for by sending her to Italy, Germany Austria, and Switzerland. She in turn rewarded me with a high school diploma, a Masters, a wonderful husband and two beautiful children. My family is a blessing and my greatest reward. To put the icing on the cake, they purchased a home close to the beach. I get free vacations.
There will be times when you will feel stressed, but never give up. Know that you can succeed because single mothers before you have already paved the way. Each milestone that you reach in raising your child will leave you smiling along your journey. Set priorities and make your child the main focus in your life.
Raising my daughter as a single parent boosted my self-esteem, confidence, and made me stronger as a person. I truly believe there is nothing that I can’t accomplish in my life. I own it. Know that your life and your child’s life are your responsibility, and if dad decides not to be a part of it or is limited in his role let him own that. We are all where we are because of the choices that we make. “Get clear, only then will your vision allow you to see your mission in life.”
In addition to being a mother and grandmother, Rhonda serves as a mentor and leader for underprivileged women. She also enjoys creating inspirational, motivational and leadership quotes and writing as a platinum author on Ezine Articles. She is also the owner of Mother 2 Mother Blog where she posts on parenting and family, home gardening, recipes, budgeting, and product reviews. You can also find her on Twitter, Pinterest and Google+. Please connect!