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I was talking to a fellow single mom today, and she was sharing how she was at her breaking point.  She was at the point of being sick and tired of being sick and tired.  She has just become a single mom and just can’t fathom how a man can just walk away from their child.  As I spoke with her and offered her advice, I shared my own story.  After hearing it, she asked me a question:

Don’t you get sick and tired of being strong? Don’t you sometimes want to give up?

And the answer I gave her was simple…

SOMETIMES

I get sick and tired EVERY DAY! I want to give up EVERY DAY!

I get sick and tired of being a single mom
I get sick and tired that my son’s father isn’t there for our son
I get sick and tired of watching my son scream and yell and cry with even the mention of Daddy
I get sick and tired of how people view me because I’m a single mom

I get sick and tired of having to go to work each day
I get sick and tired of feeling inadequate at times due to someone else’s standards
I get sick and tired of working so hard and getting paid pennies
I get sick and tired of the need to meet societal needs

I get sick and tired of being haunted by my experiences in past relationships
I get sick and tired of being alone
I get sick and tired of worrying about everyone around me and in my life
I get sick and tired of being strong all the time

I sometimes want to break down and cry, out of frustration, anxiety, and then something amazing happens…I let it go!!!!

 

Because you know what? I don’t have the time and the patience to be depressed about it. I have my beautiful baby boy that depends on me to be strong and nurturing.  I still have to wake up each morning and go to work to support myself and my son.  I don’t have to allow my past to become my future.  I don’t have to meet society’s needs. I need to be myself.  I have to be me.  My mother depends on me for being there, even if it’s just to be supportive and a sounding board.  I have to do it.  I have to be there for and with my friends to offer them a shoulder whenever they need it especially they have been there from Day One and have never turned away from me. I have to do that.

I have to be that way because that’s who I am…

USE UP

And allowing myself to worry about everything is not making anything better.  I have to keep moving and keep busy because nothing has changed since the moment that I broke down and wanted to cry. Nothing at all…

Sometimes getting to the point where you’re sick and tired allows the strength to come forth to move forward.

When I am at my lowest point, I find that there is only one direction left to go – and that’s up.  So why continue to dig my grave, why not continue to push forward towards success? Because one day, I will look back and realize that it was all worth the journey.

 

I left her with two songs that typically inspire me when I feel I can’t go anymore…

 

Being a single mom doesn’t mean the end of the world, sometimes it is the motivation that you need to be keep your head up and drive to be successful. Don’t allow it to bring you down. There are many single moms that have done it successfully with less than you’ll ever have. Let them be your inspiration to keep moving forward.  Don’t let the negative thoughts take over you.  I’m not overly religious, but I’m extremely spiritual. I believe that God has a plan for each and every one of us, and this is just part of the path that He has made for us to become a better person.  Live up to that standard, not below it.

 

About Natasha

Hi, I'm Natasha! I'm a 30-something Program Manager and blogger at Epic Mommy Adventures. Most importantly, I'm a single mom to my adorable son, who drives me nuts in one moment and melts my heart in the next. I enjoy sharing our epic stories, giving advice to other single moms, and sharing my co-parenting woes. I also share blog hops, giveaways, product reviews, and so much more. Join the fun!

Comments

  1. Carla Cabret says:

    This has REALLY blessed me and inspired me. I’m at my breakin point.

  2. OMG yes. Agreed. I can relate to ALL of what you said. But at the end of the day, I too learn to let go and do what I felt what right for me and my son. Even though letting go does not mean the road is easy. Everything just became easier to deal with. As I press on and do better, I am starting to change people minds about single mom stereotypes. That is all you can do is make your life better by taking it one day at a time. The things you can control, control them. The things you can’t let go and let God.

    • You are so right – we just become better equipped at handling the day-to-day. I truly believe in just letting it go and moving forward. As I continue to do well, I have also been changing the minds about single mom stereotypes, and helping other single moms get to that place as well. I loved your story on your blog – it is amazing how much we can achieve against all odds. Wishing you the best!

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