2017 was quite the roller coaster ride…that is honestly the best way to explain it. Everything in my life was flipped on the side, and in some ways, I’m stilling working to get it right-side-up again. But that’s not what I’m here to share today. Today, I want to work towards identifying personal goals to renew my self, my spirit, my year.
Goals can be set and changed throughout the year, but I believe it is incredibly important to have your first draft prepared at the beginning of the year. You are already in the midst of reflecting on your life and goals from the previous year, so why not work on developing your plan for the new year.
So let’s talk about my rules for setting goals for the new year. The rules are just like any other goal-setting expectations:
- Assess what’s important to you and what you want to focus on in the new year.
- Be specific when identifying your goals.
- Make sure you can achieve these goals this year.
- Set relevant goals – if you have an overall 5-10 year plan (which you should definitely aim to do), make sure the goals are relevant to what you intend to achieve in your long-term plan.
- Set clear timelines for achieving all goals.
Now that we’ve identified the rules, let’s dive into my personal goals for 2018:
- Identify and participate in no more than 2 joint parent/child activities simultaneously in 2018. In 2017, my son and I went into activity overload, participating in everything under the son, including Cub Scouts, indoor and outdoor soccer (2 different leagues), karate, robotics club, and so much more. However, with this overload, other important things suffered, including my son’s homework and my efforts to reinforce what he’s learned and my own educational pursuits. Additionally, we did nothing other than school/work and activities. Although we were physically in the same location at the same time, we didn’t spend any time together. So it’s time to scale back in 2018. We can have solo activities, such as robotics club for my son (which occurs during his after-school program) and cooking classes for me (which occurs when he’s visiting his dad every other weekend), but we will only participate in 2 joint activities in 2018. I want to be able to have some extra time available for us to go out and actually spend time having fun together.
- Work no more than 50 hours per week in 2018. Why am I setting this goal? Because I’m a complete workaholic, and if I allow myself, I will work every waking minute. When you work from home for numerous days per week and you work in a position that has more work available than people to actually perform the work, it is so easy to just fall into the rhythm of working on overload. My goal is to change this in 2018 and create some balance for all of the other things that I want to do this year.
- Complete MBA in 2018. I have been working on my MBA for a very long time, without actually completing it. Well, I’m done adding this to my goals each year and never fulfilling it. I am going to complete my MBA this year.
- Write at least one blog post every 2 weeks, with a goal of a minimum of 24 posts for the year. I have been struggling recently with being inspired to write, and I want to change that in 2018. I am preparing some blogging prompts, based on questions received on Ask Epic Mommy, comments, and some research from my own life and online. I need to write, and I need to remove the wrenching feeling that I get every time I sent down to write. So I’m forcing myself out of it, and I’m going to start writing again.
- Read at least 2 books per month, with a goal of 25 books by the end of 2018. The weekend after Thanksgiving, I signed up for Kindle Unlimited, allowing me to read as many books that I’d like for a very small fee. This is exactly what I needed to start reading again. Reading relaxes me, provides some much-needed inspiration, and get my creative juices flowing. Since signing up, I have gotten lost in at least 5 books and my reading list continues to grow by the minute.
- Plan vacations in 2018, with a goal of 1 week-long vacation and 2 mini-trips for me and my son. It is very important for me to make sure that my son and I are able to go on vacation and spend quality time together. It’s easy to fall into the rhythm of every day and forget about that extra time that is needed for your family to refresh and reset. If I am to remain resilient and inspired, I need that time as well to relax and have fun.
- Continue to have weekly Family Nights, with a goal of 1 outing per month and 3 family game nights or move nights per month. In 2017, my son and I implemented Family Night, which turned out to be an incredible success. Every Friday night, we would have a movie night, where we would watch a new movie or a movie that we’ve seen several times before. I will make some microwave popcorn, and we are completely devoted to each other during that time. This year, I want to expand upon this by not only having movie nights but also taking advantage of the many board games that my son received for Christmas and having family game nights as well. Also, there is usually so many events occurring on Friday evenings at many of the locations where we have season passes, so this year we’ll be adding outings to Family Nights.