Yes, I’m an African-American Woman and Single Mom…But I Am More Than Just a Statistic

The other day while at work while driving off to sleep at my desk at work (hey, it happens to all of us at some point!), a woman that I work with (we work at the same company, but we don’t work in the same department) had a peculiar question for me:  “Don’t you feel weird being a statistic?” What do you mean? I asked. Well being an African-American woman, and a single mom. Don’t you feel weird fitting into that statistic? she questioned. The precursor to the question was a series of rambling statements, explaining that she was curious and didn’t […]

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Let’s Talk About Sex…and the Single Mom

First and foremost, I don’t talk about sex – it’s just not one of those things that I share with the people around me, and I haven’t really touched on it here on the blog at all. I’m going to try to break a record today and test how many times I can say sex in this post – I never talk about it. It’s so incredibly weird, but I feel the desire to share today. Sex is taboo…especially when it comes to the single mom. If she’s having sex, it’s expected that she beware so that she doesn’t end up […]

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SOLO PARENTING: HOW SINGLE MOMS CAN USE TECHNOLOGY TO CONNECT WITH THEIR KIDS {GUEST POST}

A single mother’s job is never done – you wear the hat of the primary caregiver, breadwinner, encourager, housekeeper, taxi driver, and more. That’s a lot of hats to juggle and still maintain a functional household. Balancing a full-time job, the demands of life, and being a connected parent can be difficult – especially if you are doing it solo. Single parents can still maintain a strong relationship with their children, even when life gets chaotic and busy. Single mothers can utilize the new technologies available to stay involved and updated with their family. In today’s world, technology is one of the best […]

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MY BABY DADDY MOVED ON…AND I’M STILL SINGLE!

It is tough to watch your ex move on after a breakup, yet you are still single. If you were broken up with, you’re probably still questioning the breakup. Why did this happen? Will I find someone else? What did I do?  In many cases, you may still have feelings for your ex. You may be angry and hurt by the breakup, and it becomes exponentially worse because they have moved on. You may judge whether or not you’ll ever get over these feelings and how you’ll be able to deal with the breakup. All of this can be compounded if […]

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I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE! : TIPS TO END BABY DADDY DRAMA – PART 2

As I mentioned in Part One,  I’ve experienced my share of baby daddy drama and I hoping that these tips will help you to end, or avoid, baby daddy drama in your life.  Today, I have some more tips to help guide you through the experience, especially if you want to build a healthy and positive co-parenting relationship for your child. Let’s start where we left off! 4. Stop allowing your child’s father back into your head and your heart. As you’ve probably read in many of my other posts, I have always envisioned being married and living happily to my child’s […]

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I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE! : TIPS TO END BABY DADDY DRAMA

Co-parenting is not for every set of parents raising a child separately. It really isn’t.  You can’t force a positive and healthy co-parenting relationship if both parties aren’t willing to work together to make it work.  If one party is not active and engaged, disrespectful or inappropriate – trust me, the healthy and positive co-parenting relationship will diminish very quickly. Instead it will become an unhealthy impact on your child’s life. I have tried – Lord knows I’ve tried – to have a positive co-parenting relationship with Micah’s father.  I encouraged it even when I knew he wouldn’t deliver on […]

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WHY I FORGAVE MY BABY DADDY…AND WHY YOU SHOULD FORGIVE YOURS TOO

When I decided to start sharing advice for other single moms, I never expected the outpouring of support and the numerous e-mails from single moms hoping to get some advice from me on their particular situations. Many times, we just speak about each other’s situations and find solace in having someone to listen to that understands and you can relate to. But many times there are numerous questions asked, and although I am no expert, I have so many thoughts about single parenting and the path to happiness. One of the biggest questions that I continue to get on a regular […]

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9 TIPS FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BABY DADDY

Trying to be civil around my son’s father is possibly the single most difficult thing that I’ve had to do – aside from giving birth and raising my son as a single mom. Ok, so it’s not the single most difficult thing that I’ve done, but it ranks really high. But in the past year, I have built a better relationship with my son’s father and just by using these 9 tips! But realize, this is more for those that are attempting to have a better relationship for the sake of the children. If you’re trying to get back together […]

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HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR BABY DADDY

In a perfect world, single moms would not be single moms.  At least I wouldn’t be one…it’s exhausting work! I am a proud single mom but I won’t sit here and pretend like I don’t need any help.  However, that is not the reality of the world.  Many women step into being single moms of their own choice and others have no choice; they have to do what’s in the best interest of the child. I really hate that term, though…baby daddy.  Someone who wanted to be really cute and creative came up with this term, but honestly Micah’s Daddy is known as […]

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DATING AS A SINGLE MOM

Where do I begin…dating when you’re a single mother is and always will be a challenge.  At no given point will it become easier to date, especially when you have a young child.  I should probably give up on the whole concept overall until Micah is a little bit older, but it’s nice to get out and meet new people and build friendships and potential relationships.When I moved into my apartment a little over a year ago, I never thought I would consider the option of dating again.  I was so wrapped up in Micah and seeing him grow and […]

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