Hi, I am a fairly new single mom to a soon to be 3 year old little boy. I left my son’s father a few months ago because I found out he was doing drugs. Since that time he has been in and out of jail for theft. He has stolen from me. We were together for 13 years and never held down any job. I always supported both of us. Then our son came along and you would of thought he would have grown up but no he got worse!! He wrecked 3 of my vehicles in 2 years and I found out he was doing drugs. So I left and he has seen our son twice in the past 7 months. Now he is on probation and is living with his mom. He says he’s been “clean” for the past month and wants to see our son but I am resistant because I can’t believe anything he says. Also my son asks about him every so often, what do you tell a 3 year old in this situation? Oh did I mention his mom enables him and she just let’s him take advantage of her they are both suffering from mental illnesses and I don’t think it would be the best place for my son to be. But I don’t want him to resent me when he gets older for not letting him see his father!! I know it breaks my heart when my son asks about him but I don’t know what to say to him. What would you do? Please help thank you for letting me vent to you.
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