I’m scared. Plain and simple. It’s looking like I’ll be a single mom with a tiny bit of input from the father. I don’t know how to do it. I’m not even sure if I should go with the adoption route or not. I’m in a small space with 4 other people (immediate family) and to bring a baby in would take space away from them. I don’t know what to do. Do you have any advice for a mom-to-be with no finances?
EPIC MOMMY RESPONSES:
It’s normal to be scared…this is a tough time for you. You have to take the time to realize what you want to do – believe me it is difficult becoming a mom when you’re not ready or when you don’t have the support of a significant other. But it is possible to be a single mom, even without finances.
Speak with someone that you trust and could help you through this time. It could be your pastor, trusted friend or family member, or even seek professional help. You want to make a decision that is best for you and your child. Speak with the family members that you live with – determine if they can help in any way. Visit your local human & health services and determine if there are any programs or resources to help support yourself and your child. They can probably even help you to get a new place.
It may seem impossible when you’re in a situation – but you can overcome this and live a happy life with your child. You just have to focus on doing what’s best for you and your child, and all can be accomplished.
Wishing you the utmost best! I know this is a tough time for you, but we are here to support you any time you need it.
Dear Mom to Be, my perception from what you have shared is confusion. I would suggest perhaps you seek guidance in a professional setting as well as within yourself. Seems you aren’t sure what direction to take as far as becoming a parent and that is fine as long as in the end you do what is best for you and your child. There is nothing wrong with realizing you are not ready to become a mom and if you have a few blocks to over come even more of a reason to really stop and think. Adoption is an option but it isn’t something to take lightly, please seek help from a trusted source. Don’t worry about the “single mom” label it’s just a label it isn’t who you are. It’s just a circumstance you face at this moment. Yes it takes a little more effort but so do many other things in life. I wish you all the best, please research and take your time. You have to think of you first so you can do what’s best if you are to care for another.
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Hello I’m Mari and I love sharing uplifting information. I started Living in Mommywood, back in August 2013 in hopes of sharing a laid back approach to all things parenting related. I have a beautiful daughter named Erica who’s a college student. I have a passion for Yoga, Meditation and laughing among other things.
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